==Why I joined==
Gryphonkit, my wife.
She recruited me and her Best Friend Forever, to play.
Her BFF had actually rage quit Empires months earlier because her first alliance was toxic. Twilights Bastion is much more friendly and treats ladies like ladies, gamers like gamers and government employees like people whose job really does mean they cannot hit the Titan during a national emergency because they are in a SCIF for 12 hours a day.
==Why I quit & Why I came back & Why I stay==
I rage quit once I completed the 4* hero F2P part of Empires. Without trade, there is no way for my wealthier friends to gift me specific 5* heroes ( looking at you Delilah) unlike Pokémon GO ( thank you, my friends, for the Kyogre, twenty stupid hours in the cold, $19 USD, and I could not catch one of my own due to paywall RNG). There are no quest, special events, etc. like Pokémon GO for me to get Merlin without a ton of cash or lottery level luck ( thanks to several special events, I finally have the candy to power up a team of Machamps, and a team of Esperons, Mewtwo, and Dragonites to defeat a Machamp raid boss until I find one with Dynamic punch. My luck with evolution/ Charge TMs suck the Machamps I level with candy/ change with Charge TM always get close combat or heavy slam).
But I like taking apart developer decisions ( even bad decisions or good but money based decisions). My wealthier friends appreciated advice on 5* teams. My alliance co-leaders appreciated my input on 5* heroes, war strategy and analysis of how bad this weeks deal ( they are never good ). The newbie players appreciate my advice ( there are always new players in our alliance replacing the ones that quit since I cannot gift them my three extra Wu Kong’s or my extra Banes or any good heroes I am no longer using to them unlike Pokémon GO).
My wife likes the bump in titan score my play style brings ( she doesn’t care that nothing changes because of the Titan loot system, she just missed that extra Titan star when I was gone). She likes that we are winning wars again ( she doesn’t care that I just happened to quit when the addition of War Rules severely hurt our alliance mix of high level players, mid level players and newbies. Or that I just happened to come back when the Devs “jury rigged” a solution).
I play because my playing makes people I care about happy.