Basically this comes down to the distinction between hardcore and casual gaming.
Hardcore gamers will be serious about participating as much as they can and will actively enforce that standard on their peers.
Casual gamers will let Real Life prevail under most circumstances. They can still have periods of quite fanatic gaming. But they will not enforce participation by others, because they know Real Life is what it is.
This game sets itself somewhere between casual and hardcore, it takes discipline and multiple logins a day to take all your opportunities, yet doing so only takes a little time - you can indeed spend an AW flag during a bio break.
But don’t let that fool you. Once you’re obligating your peers to spend all their flags and don’t miss on a titan, you’re in hardcore territory. You may still be feeling like you’re gaming casually - after all this is not a hardcore MMO where you’ll be raiding for hours every day and night. But the commitment will interfere enough with Real Life to be hardcore.
So that’s the basis for realistic expectations to alliance participation: is the alliance hardcore or casual? Hardcore means an obligation to commit. Casual means it’s cool if you commit, but RL goes first.
If you’re a casual player in a hardcore alliance, get. out.
If you’re a hardcore player in a casual alliance, don’t. force. your. commitment. on. others.
If you’re either kind of player in an alliance that doesn’t act like it quacks, discuss that so either the act or the quack changes. And then draw your conclusions.