Hello, please consider The TWISTED Hurricanes. We are also active and strive to maintain a balance of real life while still enjoying wars and taking down titans.
For titans, our only rule is that you attack at least every other titan not counting any titans killed with more than 5 hours remaining. We don’t keep track of the number of hits or damage done. Currently we are taking down 8* titans with the occasional 9* or 7*.
Wars are optional, and participants are expected to use at least 3 of the 6 flags. That said, I’d say for about 50% of the wars every flag is used. Our last war we had 2 unused flags. We understand that life happens, and that sometimes it gets in the way of using every flag. Also, we are using ice tanks for wars.
If someone misses either of these things they get a warning, and will get no penalty if within 12 hours they can explain what happened. An unexplained warning means a demotion from elder to member (elder earned after 30 days), and two unexplained warnings means a boot. Keep in mind we are very lenient about this as long as players communicate - we don’t like booting people. Also if anyone knows in advance that they will be busy they can just let the leadership know and their name will be added to the banner excusing them from titans. Just opt out of wars as well.
As for the people we are friendly but sometimes have adult appropriate conversations. Some people are really quiet, and some talk a lot. We are also all over the globe (mostly Europe and Americas) so will have different people on at different times of the day.
I know that’s a lot to read, but I think a merger only works if both sides are in full understanding and agreement about the rules and conditions. I can talk to the alliance members about any issues you bring up, and can see what we are willing to be flexible on how to make this work. If this all sounds good for your alliance we can continue discussions here or on Line - my id is FighterJack.