So I know I generally (always) post light-hearted, comedic musings that are generally intended for laughs, befuddling the forum goers who don’t know better or just generally being sarcastic.
But there are certain topics in relation to a person’s well-being that I feel need a light shone on with a positive discussion in an effort to educate and expand people’s empathy for others.
As such, I struggle with depression and I will specify that there’s not one catch-all way that people with depression struggle. For me it manifests through thoughts of an overwhelming weight of (irrational) responsibility, desire to not let anyone down/disappoint people and general feelings of inadequacy because of various factors in my life.
Like with anything there are days where I’m totally in control and overwhelmingly confident/assured in myself but there are other days when even playing Empires & Puzzles and having an off war/bad titan hit/consecutive raid losses or spending beyond my preset budget chasing a hero (Guardians challenge I’m looking at you) can shake me to my core and drudge up feelings that may compel me to not interact with anyone ever again and in the most extreme cases not wanting to exist (imagining the world, my alliance, my friends and family would all be better off if I was not here).
With that baseline established of my personal perspective of depression rooted in feelings of failure, I wanted to open a conversation with the community to see how you recognize (signs, tells, etc.) if someone is floundering in this quicksand of despair and how you help this alliance mate get out of the darkness.
As with anything there are differing views in this world but I’d like to use this medium to have healthy, productive discussions with the understanding that this game’s primary objective is to be a point of relaxation from the rigors of everyday life.
I’d like to place some guidelines for the thread to try and keep it from devolving into an angst-ridden yelling match.
Please remember that this thread is to discuss the topic as a whole and should not be considered as free license to delve extensively into one’s personal struggles with mental health. This is not an attempt to dissuade discussion but rather prevent pointed attacks being made on individuals who do/do not struggle with these matters.
There are opinions that individuals just need to “toughen up” and generally discount this whole topic of discussion. While everyone may not be on the same page, you too are invited to post in here if the point is substantiated with something that can be discussed (without devolving into a flag frenzy). I have established enough support systems in my life that any detrimental comments against me won’t set me back.
No personal attacks (and general forum rules are obviously in effect)
It is encouraged to post potential E&P gaming triggers/traps (poor war performance, overspending, etc.) that people may be susceptible to falling into as well as any recommendations on coping/overcoming them.
In the end, we’ve seen that the forum can rally and be a force for good (albeit rarely). I hope we can champion a generally healthy gaming community here at Empires & Puzzles, while encouraging individuals with struggles and broadening our thoughts.
Edit: I know English may not be the primary language for many in the community. I hope the message can transcend the boundaries of language and reach those near & far as they need to hear it.