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Listening choirs, gaming is on, grabbing a drink…

That’s how it started here. I love this game and all my friends try this. Small community, so close and all in same state of mind.

F*** also. I’m here because I can’t coop my loss tbh. The friends are real, truly real, thanks for letting me weep.

It’s hard saying to yourself you’re a drunk ahole, that’s what I am. Drinking at 7 am is common then just start the game. Before you judging, no offense, had 3 coffee already since I’m awake by 5 am.

When do you admit you’re an alcoholic? Well I never did. Very good in hiding.
Never had a perfect life, but it all started in 2015 when losing my entire life. My daughter died.

After that I did everything wrong just not to coop or feel anything. Being incaserated by false accusations for 8 months. When you’re a clean addict, structure is awesome, perfect bmi. Being there was perfection for me. I was writing my boy in US, shaping my body like a 18 yo. They just don’t teach you how to coop…

When I was 6 months beyond bars my paps died. Lungcancer. I could go for a quick goodbye, 30 minutes, same in Nerherlands as global, you’re in jail so fk you… while I had his voice of the day before in my head; I love you, where are you, I’m going to my granddaughter… long story short.

Losing my only kiddo and my paps, there’s always a dude telling you to coop… When you’re locked up and bashed to numb, glad he was there to prove not all mankind is fkepup…

I hit 40 2 months ago and only can deal life by gaming and drinking… tears are in music, choirs and Gym Class Heroes.

Keep fighting, there’s only 1 life. We’ve no help in Netherlands for addicts, community is here for.

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Sometimes reaching out and talking is the start to cooping. Are there any groups in your area you can join? Something like AA

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Waiting list for 3 years…

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First of all, I am really sorry to hear of your loss and your current situation. But now you made a courageous start by admitting your addiction. So well done you. My advice would be for you to go and see your doctor or visit the hospital for advice and guidance for your alcoholism. They are the best people to provide professional support and get you started.
I wish you all the very best for 2020 and a speedy resolution to your issues. Take care

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Man that sucks. I remember how I felt when my dad died. I was 36. With two young boys that don’t really remember him 20 years later. It is hard, but hang tough. One step at a time.

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Thank you for your story. Very few tell it like it really is. Maybe your life will touch others; maybe their lives will touch you.

I won’t pretend to be qualified to give advice, only to say I understand loss and the search for some way to cope.

hugs

Some find help for alcoholism in AA (Alcoholics Anonymous). May you find what you need most.

Edit: I found solace in friends, be they “real life” or online.

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I’ve been thinking about it for 45 minutes, and truly have no idea what to say that could possibly help.

So I’ll just say, thank you for sharing your story, and for being part of this community. :heart_decoration:

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While your story and struggles are your own – and I don’t pretend to know how you feel – I have experienced addiction.

You can never give up. Always keep your hopes up even if you relapse. Reaching out as you did takes a lot of courage. May you find the support you need – we are here for support too if you ever need it.

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Firstly, thank you for sharing your story and just reaching out. It was tough to read, and I imagine even tougher for you to write.

I can’t begin to comprehend the path you have travelled up to this point, or the impact of the tragedies you have faced along the way. I am so sorry :cry:.

You are not alone. :hugs:

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Hi Sagittarius,

I’m relatively new to the game and very new to this forum (only a few days) so please don’t ask for any help about E&P :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

I’ve personally struggled most of my life with mental health issues irrespective of how good or bad life seems at any given moment (certainly genetic factors involved). I’ve also ended up in a career where I have a duty of care for others, so I’m acutely aware of the value of communities and fora such as this to help avoid excessive internalisation.

What JGE has said is excellent. Find people you can talk with on here, or IRL, as that can help diffuse some of the day to day stresses before they snowball out of control over time.

Also, what JGE says about seeing a doctor/GP or hospital is extremely good advice. Often you may get referred to specialists from counseling services, AA, or psychiatrists.

One thing I want to add to JGE’s great post is that don’t settle for whatever professional “help” you receive if it’s not working/helping. This may sound flippant, but shop around for the right person or people/services that help. I’ve had GPs refer me to psychologists and I found them all exasperating and didn’t help me at all. I ended up asking my doctor (not my first either) for alternatives. He referred me to a clinical psychiatrist which sounded scary, but this guy has been brilliant for my personality and issues.

It’s great to have support in a community like this, but please follow up with medical professionals, and furthermore, don’t give up if some of the help you receive doesn’t work for you. If you ate at a restaurant a couple of times and it wasn’t to your liking, you don’t stop eating, you go find another one that tastes good. Please try to do the same with medical/mental health services.

Take care and don’t stop communicating.

Dave

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Thank everyone for the support and advice, really appreciate that.
I reached out to my doctor, thankfully she saw it’s serious, so she referred me to a clinical phychiatrist.
It feels like a bordon falling of my shoulders, not only to be open about it, also to stop lying to myself. It’s hard to come clean and personally I’ve been hiding too much in helping others rather than myself. Pretty ridiculous when you think of it rational.
Really really appreciate, not only this community, but overall people sharing their personal story. It’s not easy being vulnerable

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they say the first step is saying it out loud. Thank you for sharing such a personal story, you have no idea who you may have helped. :hearts:

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