I experienced leader burn out and I don’t wish it on anybody! I never wanted to be leader - I don’t like being the one with the title of responsibility, and I’m much better as an “assistant to a good boss”. The leader position was taken over by me when our first leader stepped down and no one else was willing to do it. I lasted nine months until the stress of trying to please so many players while also trying to be fair, play my own two games, and keep all the balls in the air, just became too much.
I told the co-leaders I was burned out and had to step away. They decided among themselves who should step in. I left the alliance because I knew the new leader needed to set his own agenda and it’s not in my personality to keep my mouth shut
My husband stayed on the alliance since he really likes everyone there, and because he never got involved in leadership stuff, he wasnt burned out. I started an alliance with just my two accounts. I remained on their discord channel and while it was nice to have the contact, I needed the retreat of my own little, closed alliance.
I knew it wouldn’t be forever and it didn’t take long before I started missing everyone. I’d stepped in to other alliances to help with their titans, and while they were welcoming and friendly, it wasn’t the same as my “family”.
Our Leader and his new co-leader very quickly started to fill up all the vacancies that happened around the same time that I left. Soon there were only two spots open and even though I felt it hadn’t been long enough, I contacted the leader to see if I could bring my two profiles back, in fear I’d be waiting a few months otherwise. I promised him I wouldn’t step on his toes and would support his decisions.
I was very happy to come home but it wasn’t long before I started to get restless - our leader/co-leader are both European (same time zone) plus very busy in their jobs. Seeing the featured board stale or slow messaging on titans eventually drove me crazy enough to offer to the leader my becoming co-leader again. I also didn’t think it was fair that the two of them were expected to do all the tasks when I had the time to help out.
We had a great discussion and he said his one condition was that I’d be honest if I felt it was becoming too much.
It’s a long story so I’ll cut to the chase… it’s worked out wonderfully. We’ve worked out our areas of responsibility, he’s willing to take on the tasks I hate (messaging inactive players), I get to do the tasks I enjoy - all the positive and informative messaging, and we are all working together very well as a team.
The alliance is stronger than ever and we are all enjoying our game in a supportive, respectful, active and positive place.
Sometimes change is just the best course of action. Good luck and do what feels right for you and the alliance!