Agree with you 100% here. Raids are the most frustrating thing that I do everyday. The common answer of âwell raids only follow your cups, not your powerâ is even more frustrating because it only sidesteps the âissueâ (if we can call it that). I mean, itâs not like anything is set in stone here, it doesnât have to be like that. With the culmination of things like more emblems on defenses than offenses, the AI defense auto-buffs, and completely wildcard boards, constantly rolling opponents so much stronger can just feel insulting and demoralizing.
(I burn mountains of ham re-rolling for someone in my range. The usually power disparity is around 20%. Do the late gamers who like to tell us âthatâs just the way it isâ even realize that this equates to someone at their level fighting 5000 power teams?) But I digress.
What is came here to say is:
Thereâs movie from the 90âs called âThe Fanâ where super-fan Robert Deniro is talking to baseball player Wesley Snipes about what got him out of his recent slump (simplified version). The conversation has stuck with me for 25 years, and applies to so much in real life but is especially grounding for situations like this.
Iâm butchering this, but you get the gist:
âGot any idea what got you out of that slump?â
âYa know man, I just stopped caring.â
[irritated] âWhat? Stopped Caring? What is that?â
âAll my life I tried to be a perfectionist and be the best, but why? I think thatâs where I made my mistake. I mean what are we doing here? Weâre not curing cancer, weâre playing a game. Itâs just a game. Thereâs more to life than baseball.â
And his point wasnât to just mentally check-out and go full nihilism, but to reassess his priorities. The game for him was actually his job, but for us it is literally a game. Whether itâs QOL or game mechanics, nothing here is worth emoting so strongly over that it comes to effect us personally. If it does, I urge anyone to take a step back for careful reassessment.
I think youâre doing exactly the right thing. Changing your relationship with the game is healthy when itâs become too demanding. I personally think a lot of players can get way too serious about things, and itâs good for people to understand that they donât have to get sucked into it if they donât want to. No disrespect to people who choose to play like that, they enjoy it and thereâs nothing wrong with it. But I think sometimes thereâs an unspoken subtext that the ârightâ way to play this game is all-in with lots of required minimum performance, preferred gameplay, time dedication, etc. Itâs just inferred, subtly and unintentionally, but I think a lot of players get pulled in that direction without even realizing it.
FWIW, I believe there are more of us casual players than the diehards who want to micro-manage and put performance requirements on everything. And if you wind up missing a larger alliance, any of us âactive casualsâ would love to have a 3900 war mongering titan smasher such as yourself. Hell, if we werenât full Iâd be trying to recruit you right now .
And to anyone else reading this who also feels worn down with the game: consider simplifying your relationship with it. RNG will always kick you in the shins, the powercreep will continue and the QOL improvements will come slowly - but there are other facets of your game that you can control, and sometimes a realignment can help manage everything else (such as: today I decided not to raid at all because I want to spend my time farming out the event and donât have a cup minimum to maintain, so suck it Raid Arena )