Absolutely. That’s always frustrating. I guess I’m kind of a softie as a leader.
My first alliance? I started out as a nobody, like everyone else there. Leader told us, “HIT THE TITAN! USE ALL YOUR WAR FLAGS!!! HUT HUT, MAGGOTS! STEP TO IT!!!” and we all said, “SIR YES SIR!!!”
Those who had just recently joined and said “who da hell does this guy think he is, ordering me around?” … the rest of us would just look said new member like “oooooh, OH NO HE DIDN’T! He just stepped up to Master Sergeant.” We all kept our mouths right shut though, as Master Sergeant marched up to new recruit, looked him square in the face.
"THE HELL YOU JUST SAY TO ME, MAGGOT???"
New idiot with cocky attitude: “I said, I don’t know who you think you are trying to order me around and tell me what to do, telling me I ‘must use’ 6 flags in war or else. Or else what?”
Oooooh Master Sergeant polishing up his boots now… c’mon guys, gather round, bring popcorn, the new guy is about to get kicked the **** out. This is gonna be good!!!
And it was. Master Sergeant always delivered on his promise. Every time our alliance picked up a rookie who agreed to play by the rules, but then later tried to decide that the rules didn’t apply to them… they got knocked the **** out, in glorious fashion.
I played by the rules, and I helped the other rookies slog through the trenches, and Master Sergeant saw this, and promoted me to co-leader. Then one day, Master Sergeant told us that he was tired, he didn’t want to run the alliance any more, he was retiring.
After that, it was up to the rest of us co-leaders to run the show. But none of us could properly replace Master Sergeant.
There were 4 of us total trying to run the alliance after that, and disagreements ensued about how to proceed.
While I mostly wanted to keep the alliance running the same as it always had, we had new members coming and going, and unlike Master Sergeant, I wasn’t so keen to shine up my boots every time someone made an honest mistake. Whereas one of my fellow co-leaders quickly became kick-happy, and started kicking out good members because “oh well they missed a flag, so they’re gone”.
They missed one flag in 3 months, so you’re kicking them out??? No, no, no. I do not approve. Don’t do that.
“Well then how else are they supposed to learn?”
Maybe talk to them??? You just kicked out 5 of our best team members without explanation, and I have no way of contacting them to get them back… now the rest of our team is worried that they’re going to be next? 3 more people just left the alliance today because you kicked out their friends… and also by the way, I was also fond of those members. They were here long before you joined, you had no right to kick them out without my consent.
“Sorry but if they’re going to miss flags, then bye bye”
Yep. Bye bye. Is what I told her as me and at least half a dozen others left the alliance en masse.
My own group now. They don’t opt into wars if they don’t feel up to warring. Those who do choose to opt in rarely miss flags. On the rare occasion that they do? They either have a very valid excuse, or at the very least they apologize for it. I’m not about to kick anyone over something trivial, even if they do end up costing us a win. As long as it’s clear that they didn’t do it on purpose, and they don’t make it a regular habit, one war loss is not the end of the world.